Jeepers!

Two of our three children have facebook accounts, and from time to time, I like to do what I consider “checking in”—scrolling through their wall posts, clicking on photos, looking at a few of their close friends’ pages.  You know, normal mom stuff. IMG_4505 I would never do something so mortifying to them as actually post a comment on their wall.  (I have, however, sent a text directing one of them to remove a comment he made.)  It’s part of the deal at the T&C House.  As long as the Mister and I are paying the bills, then we determine where your so-called privacy begins and ends.  The Mister and I are careful not to abuse our authority, but I have occasionally been accused of “creepin.’”
IMG_4503Really, they have no idea of the “wall creeping” of which I’m capable.
Do you check up on your kids’ online activity?  Do you hang giant spiders on your house?

13 comments:

  1. Love your pumpkins. You always do fall so lovely. I cannot access my youngest's FB page but he has nothing that is public and he knows potential employeers will look up applicants. When he was a freshman though I did see a couple pics where he didn't use the best judgment, IMHO. This is where I explained to him how people will check up on him and I think he understood and they came off. Social media is such a learning process. My eldest doesn't do FB as he says it's a waste of time. I tried it and have to agree. Do you like it?

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  2. OH YES!!!! I think its irresponsible to not do that, quite honestly. This is a whole different world our kids are living in than when we were younger and they cannot possibly fully understand it nor are they equipped with the savvy and wisdom (as we are) to know how to navigate their way around it.

    They do not understand the implications of writing something they might feel is innocent and having the wrong eyes see it or posting a picture that could be misconstrued, the list goes on.....so I truly think its up to us parents to "police" their comings and goings behind the scenes in an ever so non invasive way.

    I am careful and respectful but when need be will step in, like you, would never write something on their wall but behind the scenes will address something questionable without hesitation. Think we need to listen to our moral compass and intuition as to when to intervene and when to step back and allow them to learn.
    Its a fine line but one that we must be very aware of always, too much crazy in this world to not be there for them! Happy Halloween!

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  3. I'm considered a stalker by S. Oh well...

    OK, how did you make your spiders?!?!?! Love them!

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  4. I made the horrifying comment mistake.. sue me!! HA! Heck yes I stalk, I, like you, monitor behavior!

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  5. Love your front porch!! And yes, I firmly believe in "creepin" on your kids!! Same rationale as you have!! Good for you!

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  6. My son is way too young for that sort of thing but you better believe I would be alllllllll over it! Imagine if the bullied and the bullies had someone monitoring what's going on in their lives? Remember when our parents found out *everything*? Usually from someone else's mom!

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  7. I too peek in from time to time. Like many of the other commenters, I think it’s part of parenting. It’s a scary world out there and one wrong, inappropriate comment or photo could cause considerable damage. While my son is responsible, I don't think he fully understands the true impact or ramifications of social media. His father and I have the same views as you ... I'm paying, I'm peeking! :)

    Jo

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  8. My children are grown and gone. They do have FB accounts, but since their ages are 32 and 27, they are married and self supporting now, I guess I have lost "some" control. haha - BUT if I had small children I would be bonkers with all this social media. Having been in education my entire life, I know more than most parents about kid "stuff". I have said that if I had younger children, I would allow them to have a FB page. But I believe I would set it up for them and mayyybe not tell them the PW. Therefore, they could only be online with my permission. Too much time wasted this day and time online. {me included, but I think reading my fave blogs and online shopping is good for me. hehe}

    I agree with you. Stalk, stalk, stalk. :-). XOXO

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  9. My kids are both adults now. I can't even get their health records, for healthcare I pay for, without their permission:).

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  10. Yes and Yes! We have huge spiders on the house and creeping across the lawn! This time of year is wonderful! So far I haven't been suspect of any inappropriate behavior - but if I did I would "stalk".
    Jane

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  11. Yes, LPC, I remember being rather astounded at Big's college orientation when one of the counselors reminded parents to have their children give us permission to see their health records or speak with a doctor should they have to be treated at the infirmary while at school. And this one really gets me, grades are now protected under some sort of academic privacy act, so those are off-limits, too, legally. Crazy.

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  12. Just wanted to say your ghost out of tissue paper was a real hit in the office and at home!

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  13. Yes to the checking up...No to the giant spiders! Though, I must say...your house looks positively lovely!

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